Rethink the Confidence
Clothing choices can be a way to wordlessly express yourself. However, when sharing your style with the opposite gender, sometimes messages can get lost in translation. We're not saying he doesn't like your style, just that these 20 outfits may be a bit too much fashion power for some guys to handle.
1. The Power Suit
You walk into a room wearing a tailored blazer and pants that fit you perfectly. Instantly, you look like you own the building. Most guys equate that suit with closing big deals and taking over companies, which can make small talk feel awkward. It is sleek and tailored, and you look like you have your life together. That can be intimidating.
2. Sky-High Stilettos
There's an undeniable power that comes with a woman rocking a pair of four-inch heels. Instant respect. Instant intimidation. Literally and figuratively, you tower over a conversation when you wear them. Literally. You might even end up taller than your partner. Let's be real, guys, almost all of you care about is not tripping over your own two feet while trying to keep up.
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3. Bold Red Lipstick
The bold red lip is probably the biggest "look but don't touch" look of them all. It's just so put together. It seems so intentional that it automatically sends the message of "I know what I'm doing," and that can be intimidating for a man to deal with when meeting you for the first time.
4. Over-The-Knee Boots
These boots scream high-fashion show stopper more than your neighborhood Starbucks goer. The level of swagger you need to rock these bad boys is enough to intimidate the average male. You look as if you’re about to embark on a very costly journey, and all he hopes is that he can say at least one sentence.
5. Designer Handbags
Guys will instantly assume you have very expensive taste; they won't be able to afford it down the road if you're walking around with a bag more expensive than their first car. You're setting the expectation very high and making him question if the burger place he was thinking of taking you to will even cut it.
6. Dramatic Cat-Eye Makeup
Bold eyeliner wings can be stunning, but they also cause you to lock eyes with someone with intense precision. He will wonder how long you sat there creating two perfectly shaped points. You’ll make a man want to be on his best behavior.
7. Monochrome Outfits
Dressing head-to-toe in one color is very daring and confidence-inspiring. Whether white or black, navy or hunter green, when you are monochromatic, you look crisp and untouchable. Most men can't even match their socks to their trousers, so when you rock a solid look from head-to-toe, it's scary impressive.
8. Oversized Sunglasses
Covering your eyes with oversized, dark sunglasses gives off an automatic "who are you to judge me" vibe. You look like a Hollywood celebrity avoiding the paparazzi. Plus, you’re concealing your emotions, so he’s left to decipher your body language. Playing hard to get like this is your typical cool girl behavior that can make a man feel like he's being analyzed.
9. Leather Everything
Whether sporting a rugged biker jacket or a feminine leather skirt, leather exudes a certain vibe. People think you probably own a motorcycle just waiting around the corner. That's just "cool" that most guys can't top. Leather gives off an air of toughness and rebelliousness. Like you don't need anyone's permission to be yourself.
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10. Massive Statement Jewelry
Statement necklaces and earrings that are big enough to be noticed from the opposite end of a football field speak "look at me" without apology. They're like armor that allows your personality and bravado to shine through. Wearing pieces that are grand can cause a guy to look at your jewelry rather than meet your eyes.
11. Perfectly Manicured Long Nails
Complex nail art or super long stiletto nails mean your detail oriented when it comes to beauty. To a guy, they're fragile works of art that take hours of maintenance and upkeep. He will fear smashing them accidentally and destroying weeks of painful labour.
12. Faux Fur Coats
What screams luxury better than a large, bulky coat that occupies massive amounts of physical space? You feel like a vintage movie starlet, and everyone else just looks plain in comparison. It’s so fluffy and powerful that it commands everyone’s attention before you say a word.
13. Very Intricate Braids
If your hair looks like three professional stylists worked on it for hours, he will be impressed by your commitment to your appearance. When a guy sees hair like that, he thinks you've got the patience of a saint. Not only do you look sophisticated, but he feels like he needs to button up a bit when you talk to him.
14. Sheer Fabric Accents
Transparent articles of clothing, or articles that contain lacy cutouts, are extremely attractive. They require such confidence because they flirt with the boundary of what is covered and what is revealed. It can cause a guy to become embarrassed easily or unsure of where to look.
15. Floppy Wide-Brimmed Hats
A big hat gives you space around you that others will subconsciously keep clear. You appear to be on vacation even when you're running errands, and that helps. It's tough for a dude to ask that girl out who looks like she's filming her own tourism commercial.
16. Sequins in the Daytime
Defying "the rules" and rocking those shimmering sequins during daylight boldly announces that you don't care what's "expected" of you. Every source of light bounces off this look and guarantees that you will be the most noticeable person within walking distance. Guys are generally fine with fading into the wallpaper, so when you decide to sparkle like that, it can overwhelm them.
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17. High-Waisted Vintage Trousers
This silhouette is super chic and very flattering, but it also projects more of a "retro movie starlet" aura that seems very premeditated and done. You seem like someone who values history and has an understanding of style, which could make him feel slightly intimidated by his wardrobe. This silhouette screams, "I have very high expectations for all aspects of my life".
18. Neon Color Palettes
Strolling down the street wearing electric pink or lime green shows you're definitely not shy. Bright colors like that practically scream at people, and your timid boyfriend probably wouldn't know how to react to that kind of attention. You're giving off bright and hyper vibes that say you're here to party your way.
19. Architectural Shoulders
Shirts or blazers with angular, structured shoulders will give you the most authoritative look. Not only will he think you look more masculine, but Architecture-ish shoulders give any outfit a more high-fashion vibe. Structured shoulders make you look big, bold, and take up more space.
20. An All-Black Ensemble
Clothes that are all black have a certain "city cool" style. Typically, when a woman wears all black, she seems like a fashionable enigma. You look cool, cool, and maybe even a little dangerous, like you have a secret everyone's going to want to know.
